Well-meaning oldsters, grandparents, teachers and clergyas well as college and govt systemsoften become enablers by softening or getting shot of the natural results of their kid’s, student’s or constituent’s behaviour. In yesterday’s attention, we debated the boy, whose substance issue finished in crisis. That whole process and the ensuing crisis influenced many lives. The boy developed a serious substance issue by the point he was fifteen.

    His parents, rather than drawing limits and looking for much wanted help for their boy, targeted on safeguarding him from the natural results of his evil-doing. When the high-school principal presented proof that he was selling marijuana, his mum and dad hit out at the high school and threatened a legal action.

    In one year’s time, he was detained 5 times for driving under the influence of alcohol. Every time, his mum and dad bailed him out of jail, giving him “one more chance.” Their other children were neglected.

    Their sort of “helping” had only continued his behaviour and had turned into agony for the whole family.

    If somebody you love is wrestling with a life-controlling problem, you can help by setting limits, by employing troublesome love. And trust God to help you thru the maze. Father, teach me to set limits for my loved one and to reply to wrong behaviors with troublesome loveand please give me the power to follow thru.