Is the one you love battling with a life-controlling problem? Are you helping him ( or her ) overcome or are you becoming part of the problem? Enabling is anything that stands in the way of the natural effects of someone’s behaviour.

    A nice example would be oldsters trying frequently to help their child with his drug abuse. At age twelve, the child started drinking at a pal’s house on the weekend and was reliant upon drugs by age fifteen. His drug taking led to his murdering a particularly close family mate and serving a lengthy jail sentence. During his teen years, they attempted to help him by bailing him out every time he got into difficulty, instead of letting him to suffer the results of his behaviour.

    By making an attempt to help, the oldsters became part of the issue. They enabled to keep on a downward spiral till his behaviour finished in tragedy. Is someone you care about wrestling with a life-controlling problem? It is natural to need to protect those we care about, but safeguarding them from the natural results of their evildoing only enables them to resume on the same trail. Ask God to offer you the wisdom and the strength to say “no.” to hope and love and support but not enable.

    I would like to help the one I care about so much. And I’m beginning to realize more that I do more harm than help by rescuing him from the effects of his behaviour.    Is the one you love battling with a life-controlling problem? Are you helping him ( or her ) overcome or are you becoming part of the problem? Enabling is anything that stands in the way of the natural effects of someone’s behaviour.